I cannot get over how mentally disordered our whole society is. We get bombarded with messages about how to slim down, get toned, get fit, and at the same time how much we must love and accept ourselves for who we are and what bodies we have. Cause everyone is different and unique but we must all try and mold ourselves into the ideal body that society wants us to have. But don’t forget to love yourself.
This isn’t helped by the fact that we base our entire worth around our looks. If we do not get appreciation for our looks we are worth nothing. This applies to both men and women, but there is a big imbalance between the sexes here. Men and women comment on other women’s bodies to an absurd amount. It is as if we are all free to just judge all girls and women out there on whether or not they are “fuckable” enough, “sexy” enough or “pretty” enough. We just splurt out all these stupid ass comments, no care who is listening or not. Maybe it’s your daughter hearing you say these words. “Nah, I wouldn’t go near that” or “I’d definitely fuck that”. I mean, first of all. You are talking about a human being, not an object, so stop making her into one. Why is it so hard to use the pronoun “her”? Would you like anyone to refer to your daughter, sister, mother, wife as an object? Or would you like to be an object yourself? No? Stop doing it yourself then. You may not know her, but she is still a person and whether or not you find her non-attractive or “fuckable” doesn’t remove that fact. Second, what message do you think you send out when telling everyone if you would fuck “that” or not fuck “that”? Why is it important? Why can you not keep that to yourself? Is it a game you must play to seem “hard”? By comments like this, girls grow up to believe that the one thing that matters most is whether or not she is attractive. Intelligence? Humour? Interests? No, girls believe that men want sexy, pretty women that giggles quietly and loves shopping so they can take the piss out of their love for shopping, because the less the woman is like a man, the more a man becomes a man. Right?
But mind you, a woman cannot be too sexy, or try too hard to fit into the category of “fuckable” because then she’s a whore. She’s learned that without “sexiness” she’s worth nothing, so she tries to attain it, but if she tries too hard, she’s a whore. You see the problem? No matter what girls do they are either boring, ugly (not trying enough), whores, bitches (trying too hard), and a few “lucky” ones are sexy and fuckable. Yay! You made it. You have the appreciation of others and now you will be happy forever.
I’m not saying that you can never express that you find someone attractive. But it is HOW you express that. Saying “yeah, I’d fuck that” or “she’s really attractive, she looks happy/healthy/sweet/nice whatever” means too completely different things. Some people awakens sexual attraction and that’s natural, but going around making that person into an object is not ok. Walking around judging every person you see on whether you’d fuck them or not, is not okay. This applies to both men and women. I’m not saying men are not victims of this, because they are too, but let’s face it – women are the biggest sufferers of this body-shaming in society.
No wonder people are insecure. My god, we feel as if we get judged everywhere we go. And we do. From what I’ve experienced the last few years at least. We are not safe. We are told to love ourselves but how can we do that if our worth as HUMAN BEINGS is based on our looks?
It is so goddamn disordered. When did being happy, joyful, intelligent, witty, strong, independent, affirmative, kind, loving, generous, hard-working, ambitious, healthy, etc become less important than looks? Never, I’d say.
- to get fit again (do at least 3 workouts a week, but prefeably 4-5)
- my main fitness focus will be to gain muscle mass and increase cardio.
- no stressing about results though, as I know it fucks up my mental state. Just focus on progress, no matter how slow or fast, big or small.
- hopefully run my first race (5-10kms) together with my friend - running here I come!
- to try and eat mainly clean food and less grains, sugar etc. I've already been through this. I have no restrictions on my diet though, since it's just silly and stupid and makes me miserable about life.
Simple and easy goals - focusing on health, rather than fitness I guess :)
Since the 70's and onwards we have been taught that it is the saturated fats, and fatty food that make us ill and obese, mainly based on the studies made by a man called Ancel Keyes. Therefore we have been advised to decrease the amount of fat we eat and increase the amount of carbs we eat. Especially bread, pasta and other grain based products. All the while the major population has continued to grow sicker and fatter, many times despite trying to follow the health recommendations of the governments.
- The insulin problem. It isn't just sugar that causes insulin to run amoc in your body. All carbs will be converted into glucose, and glucose is actually toxic to have in your blood-stream (that's why high blood-sugar is no good). So the body produces the hormone insulin to take care of the glucose, by "delivering" it to your cells (mainly muscle), so that they can be used by your muscles as energy. The issue is that most people today are far less active and eat far more carbohydrates today than we did before agriculture, and even up until more recent history. So the energy never gets burned, and thus it turns into fat (easier for the body to store for more harsher times). So yes, obesity and fatness are actually caused by over-consumtion of sugar and carbs, rather than fat.
- To top the insulin problem, the body actually suffers from the constant hormone fluxes and production, and is very likely to develop systemic inflammation (although there are also other dietary causes to this, but sugar and fast carbs are one major cause).
- Furtheron, grains (and also legumes and nuts) contain phytates that are believed to block the absorbtion of minerals such as calcium and iron. Grains also contain the anti-nutrient lectins, which is a mild form of poison (to prevent the seeds from being eaten). Lectins prevent the GI tract from repairing itself, leaving it vulnerable to bacterial growth ---> inflammation. Gluten is the third content in our most common grains (wheat, rye and barley), which is a protein that our digestive systems find extremely hard to handle. Some scientists believe that up to a third of the population are intolerant of gluten, more or less. Gluten intolerance causes an inflammatory response and can lead to skin problems, arthritis, acid reflux, auto-immune disorders and celiacs disease.