I am a feminist. No, I do not hate men. No, I do not say that men can't be masculine and women can't be feminine. I'm a feminist when it comes to what roles men and women learn to take. What roles we teach our boys and girls they should have in this society. We deem ourselves to be democratic and developed, but we cannot stand the thought of a man wearing a skirt if he wishes (dear me, he might as well go and KILL someone with that skirt!), or a woman takes up too much media space, have certain opinions and doesn't shave her legs become ridiculed, called ugly, jealous and diminished in as many ways as possible. Because she steals some spotlight minutes away from the men?
Why is it, that in a modern country, where we supports the freedom of choice, find it almost impossible to go into a kids toystore and buy toys for KIDS? What do I mean? I mean that there are almost no toys for kids, because the toys are for girls or boys.
Oh, look! Girls learn from early start that fashion, petting, make-up, child-care and beautiful princesses are for girls only. Girls need to know how to be beautiful, dress well and look after pets and children. Girls learn that their value lies within these qualities. If you are not kind, tender, caring and beautiful, you're worthless!
But boys on the other hand, they play with fortresses (they need to learn to fight and protect!), tools (so they can be the handyman), cars and science. Boys are only worthy if they are tough, handy, strong, protective and curious.
Finally, some toys companies have taken a big step in the right direction, have realised what damage they are doing and have now started to change their shops and catalogs.
Despite hard critisism from various politicians around the world (a french female politician calling the catalog pervert for example), the toy company stand by their choice and that's amazing! It is not until we see these changes in society, until we and the big companies take a stand, we can make a change.
I am a feminist because being "a girl" is an insult. Because being a woman means I will have less salary than man male collegue. Because men can walk away from raping a women without consequences, since she was wearing "too short a skirt" or she was "drunk".
When will society stop blaming the victim of a crime that was committed by someone else? When will we teach our boys that women are NOT their property, NOT there for their desire. Why do we teach girls to be careful to go out in the streets? Why do we teach girls self-defense? It is just like saying "men are animals, men can't control themselves, and they will get away with it too, so you better be careful". Instead we should teach both boys and girls that NOONE is to be touched without consent. Each girl, boy, woman, man and everyone in between have the right to their own bodies. We owe noone nothing. No matter what I choose to wear, I never "ask for it".
But yeah, I guess it makes sense that a woman wearing a short skirt thought to herself "I want to get raped tonight, so I will wear this". No. Just no. Anyone can wear anything they want - for whatever reasons they have - they are not asking to be sexually harassed or raped. Never.
But you know, boys will be boys, and you should cover up or you will have to put up with it. Boys will be boys and it is their right to touch you wherever they want, whenever they want even if you say no. Boys will be boys, and how dare you say no to them, because they oughta learn that they own the world and you are just a sexual object.
This argument is just another way for patriarchy to remain power. Blame the victim.
We are all so carfully molded into stereotypes, made to believe that the world needs "its' balance" (what balance? the one where women get abused and dimished while men get glorified and praised?), tought to fulfill our roles as men and women, that we become blind to what really matters.
I do not want my children to grow up having to change who they are so they can fit into the expected gender roles. I don't want my daughter to grow up thinking she has to be pretty (and dumb) to be socially worthy. I do not want my son to believe he'll be "a girl/pussy" if he likes animals, cooking or caring. That he is worthless unless he is brutal and tough.
I do not want my children to grow up in a world where they will be socially punished (bullying, harassment) if they don't fit into their expected roles. Because that is exactly what is happening. Why do you think a woman wears a short skirt? Because all he life she has been tought, over and over again, that she will be more attractive, worthy and praised if she does. If she chooses to wear "non-sexy" clothes and no make-up she will most likely be questioned why and encouraged to at least "make an effort". We all get socially punished if we do not fit in. Most people want to fit in. So we adapt. We reshape ourselves. We model ourselves into men and women.
Again, I do not think that all women should stop wearing make-up, dresses skirts. Or that all men should stop lifting weights, loving mechanics etc. I DO think we need to open our perspectives, open our eyes. We need the right to choose. We need the right to have equal expectations. I expect you to start acting like a decent human being, and treat people as HUMANS, thinking creatures with a great heart and a great brain.
I find it really hard to make a decision on where I stand in relationship to what's healthy to eat and what's not. On one hand I beleive we need to reduce our meat intake and other animalistic food sources, I also belive that too many carbs, especially wheat based ones are really quite bad for you as well.
Soooo. I mean, it's really hard to live on a diet based on vegetables and fruit. That's not healthy either.
My new philosophy around food is therefore:
Eat intuitively - eat when I'm hungry, stop when I'm satisfied. Not stuffed. Trust my body and follow it's cues.
Reduce animalistic food sources, but no elimination. Choose carefully and don't buy meat from other origins than Sweden. Same goes for dairy products. Buy organic whenever possible.
Don't be scared of fat - as long as they are from natural sources. Margarine, rape-seed oil and sun-flower oil are all fats that are sold to us as healthy, but when you look at the production line it is difficult to justify margarine as being healthier than butter. Something that has been washed with hydric acid, coloured, and flavoured seems to me a bit (alot) unhealthier than butter. Then again - cold pressed coconut oil and olive oil are fats that have been proven to have real health gains in our bodies. Good amount of natural fats are essential. Don't shy them!
Reduce wheat based foods such as cakes, pasta, biscuits, bread. When I do eat bread, always opt for carefully prepared bread, such as sourdough - preferably home baked. Gluten is inflammatory to the system and should be consumed in much smaller quantities than we do in our western world.
Continuing on the carefully prepared food - same goes for beans and other legumes. This is because grains and beans contain phytic acid that is supposed to protect the seed from sprouting in inhabitable places and from being eaten by animals. That should be reason enough to not eat them without proper preparation! The phytic acid stops our bodies from being able to absorb the minerals from our food. It also affects digestion negatively.
Proper preparation is thus through fermentation (such as sourdough) and sprouting. It will help the body to benefit from the grains and legumes without struggling to absorb the nutrients and digest the food.
Avoid as many additives as possible. I truly believe that additives are hurtful to our health. There are additives in almost everything we consume nowadays. If not additives, there is pesticids. I always try to buy organic fruit and vegetables. Organic bananas have no trace of pesticids compared to "normal" bananas, which contain around 4 different types of pesticides. Same principal goes with coffee. And grapes. Geez, grapes are truly bad. Don't ever buy non-organic grapes, raisins or wine. Unless you want a coctail of poison, that is. Pesticides are substances that are poisonous. Why eat them, seriously?
I am convinced that it is all these poisonous and unnatural substances in our food that is causing us to become ill. They are legal because "they are under the level of what's been proven to cause damage", but do we know for sure what the long term effect of constant exposure of low levels of poison in our food is?
I'm sure you've heard of the term "the coctail effect". I believe there is a lot of reason to take this seriously. All the different additives that are found in our food are not natural and considering our bodies are natural biological organisms, I wouldn't expect them to handle unnatural substances very well. Just like our planet is being littered by plastic, oil and other harmful rubbish, our bodies suffer the same fate.
We feed ourselves with shit. And most of us don't even know it.
I don't like to rant and preach, and this post is turning into a damn rant. I'm not perfect. I buy non-organic stuff. I have eaten and drunk non-organic grapes and wine recently. But I try. I try to eliminate poison from my food. It's choice. I want to eliminate the risk of my future children suffering from Adhd/diabetes/allergies etc - cause I belive these illnesses are due to the poor quality of the food we eat. This is not scientific. It is not proven. To be honest - there is alot to be said about the scientific research of diet and disease. I can only make my own conclusions from what I have read and seen and experienced.
I want to feed my body a colourful, organic, natural, diverse and fair diet. Less sugar, less processed, less gluten, less trans-fats and more clean food.
But I will also eat a cake every now and then. I will have a drink if I want to. I will eat sweets if I feel like it. That is a choice I make, as long as I am aware of the effects it has on my body.
My mental health suffers when I try to restrict myself. Therefore it is of most importance to listen to my body. If I am satisfied/full - don't eat. My body is very capable of telling me when it has had enough. It is also capable of telling me when I need more fuel. I don't need to eat at 12 just because it's lunch if I'm not hungry. But if I am - then eat!! Eat eat! Trust my guts :)
I don't know if you've cared to read all of this, but if you have, remember that all of this are my own thoughts about food and what's healthy. I have no links to sources, basically because I have read so much, both on the internet and in books, and I think it is better for everyone to find information and read for themselves to form an opinion. The above text is my conclusion of what most articles, books and dieticians advocate. Clean, natural foods. A healthy balance between fats, proteins and carbs.
And of course the freedom to choose. But be sure you know what it is that you choose!
We have tomatoes in abundance at the moment, and I try to eat them every day. They are so sweet and full of flavour. Lovely! We also have alot of chili peppers and herbs. Wonderful!
I promised more photos, so more photos you get :)
Saturday the 24th I had a rough day. Went to the vet with Benjie to have him put to sleep, then to later find out that Cloud had been put to sleep earlier that week. I was kind of sad. Very sad. But we went to a crayfish party at my friend Maria and her boyfriend Per's.
We ate lots of good food, had a drink competition where all guests had to pair up and make a drink for each and every one, which we then voted for. We didn't win with out Bay Breeze, but it was a nice idea and fun to try all the different drinks people had come up with.
Soon off to bed, cause I didn't sleep well last night. Got to get up early again tomorrow as usual :)
See you then!
I'm sorry I haven't been blogging for a while. I want to keep you updated with photos and all the things we do, but when I come home from work I am tired and it takes a while to edit and upload photos and I just keep saying "tomorrow"...ah well. Here's a little post with just a handfull of photos from August.
As you already know we had Phil and Abby here by the start of August and one evening James and Helene came over for a barbeque. Smilla found a cozy place in Chris' sweater too ;-)
On Friday the 9th we had a BBQ-party at ours with a lot of people and it was brilliant. Therese and Johan from Malmö, Abby, Phil, Mark and Will from England and lots of other good friends. Sunny evening and lots of games. A really good night.
On Saturday the 10th mum and Micke got married after 16 years together. A beautiful day with lots of love.
Next post will come up soon with some photos from last weekend. Hope you have had a good August too.
On the Sunday after the Kräftskiva, me, Chris, dad and Phil went down to a lake to go fishing on the boat.
After using the engine for about 5 minutes, we ran into a rock, and it ended with Phil and Chris having to row.
It is a beautiful place.
We enjoyed the sun, caught a few little perch and had a lovely time.
The sun started to set and it was getting darker and cooler...
At around 20.00 we went back to shore and pulled the boat up.
And finally a little pic of me!
Today is Chris' birthday and hopefully I will be making him happy throughout the whole day :)
On Saturday August 3rd we went down to dad's and Milo's for Kräftskiva.
Before crayfish, dad and Milo had decided to give us a try of the infamous surströmming. For more info click >>here<<.
Not many faces looked convinced when dad opened the stinky tin...
Chris wasn't overly excited about the taste either (neither was I...yuck!)
But Milo ate it quite happily, her son Tobias didn't mind it. James was brave and actually had a couple of mouthfuls before giving up and putting the fork down...
After a while the proper delicious stuff came out.
And that was all for that Kräftskiva :)
Right when you start to get the proper summer feeling
it is already gone.
July was warm, hot and dry and yet I only went to the beach a few times,
and swam only twice!
Time was short for a lot of things I wanted to do,
my list of things is always longer than summer allows.
But not to be sad, I have had an absolutely wonderful summer,
with the best end to it ever possible!
On the last day of July we came with James and Helene down to the beach and watched them cool down in the water.
After James' and Helene's swim, we went for a game of minigolf. At the end of the evening the sky was wonderful, and we went back down to the beach for some photos.
I promise I will post more pictures of our last week of summer tomorrow!
Some pictures of the pretty little danish town Helsingör, where we went on Monday.
It was a lovely, warm day and we just strolled along, looking at little shops, trying strong cheeses,
looking at all the liqouer stores and enjoying a beautiful day trip away.
Green smoothies are awesome, to be honest. They may not look like the tastiest thing you've ever seen, but trust me, they don't taste "green". Mix spinach with oat milk, banana, mango, pineapple or which ever fruit you like. I also like to add in mint leaves. It's absolutely fantastic for digestion and helps bringing all the goodness from spinach/kale into your system. Since it's been mixed your body will absorb it better and drinking it regulary has been proven to increase your overall health. So try it out! :)
(Just be sure to mix them well, so it is well smooth, because little tiny bits of leaves between your teeth is not the best ;))
The last couple of days I have been trying new recipes (with my own modifications, one of them completely remade), and both of them I went "I need to cook this again, definately!".
First out was this asian salmon/bean salad which was just amazing! Let me see if I can remember how I did it...
- 2 filets of salmon
- a bunch of mushrooms
- a tin of mixed beans
- 2 cloves of garlic
- some fresh grated ginger
- sesame oil
- neutral oil (coconut/sunflower/rapeseed)
- spinach leaves
- sesame seeds
Chop the salmon into cubes, dice the mushrooms and stir fry them in a little bit of sesame oil, neutral oil and soy. Add in grated garlic and ginger, add more sesame oil/neutral oil and soy if needed. Add the beans, and let it all fry until cooked. Spinkle sesame seeds over it all and serve on a bed of spinach leaves. Absolutely fantastic! (I had some sambal oelek in it too, but if you don't like chili you can leave it out).
Second amazing dinner was this wrap:
- 2 chicken breast
- 2 tomatoes
- ½ red pepper
- ½ onion
- 3 big teaspoons of tapenade
- fresh rosemary
- fresh oregano
- spinach leaves
- alfalfa sprouts
- 2 wholemeal wraps
Dice the chicken into cubes, dice onion finely, same with pepper and tomatoes. Fry it all with generous amounts of tapenade. Add salt and pepper after taste. Cook until it's ready. Lay some spinach leaves and sprouts on the wraps. Top with the chicken stir (and a little sundried tomato if you wish), and serve! The only downside of this dish was that the bread went soggy...so maybe the bread is better served on the side. Up to you! Delicious either way :)
Hope you have a great Wednesday!
On Friday I bought a box of strawberries, and this little peculiar shaped one was found. It looks like a little flower in disguise. Sweet!
On the Friday evening we packed a picnic and went to the busstop to go into town...
We sat down by the water and ate our food - home made wraps with smoked salmon, eggs, lettuce, sprouts and mayo + a muffin each.
Met up with my lovely family <3
There was lots of people in town, and the reason was that Gyllene Tider was playing and they're very famous. They are from Halmstad and have been a band since the 70's...the lead singer is the same guy as in Roxette.
After a while we got cold though, and went home.
On the Saturday we went to the pier for fishing and sun bathing. Chris caught an eel (eek), and we both caught the sun a little too much (oops). Ate cherries, salad and had a lovely time. Summer and warm weather has finally arrived!
Sunday was a relaxing day, with a little walk. I went to the beach to meet Jessica and Johannes in the afternoon, while Chris stayed in and watched the tennis.
Today we've both been back to work, and tomorrow I'm off again. Planning to go the gym and then later meet up with Jessica in town. Will be a nice day :)
A few pictures from the last couple of days. 1) Yesterday's lunch: bread roll, avocado, egg, fruit, almonds. 2) Yesterday's face. 3) Two of yesterday's guests. 4) A strawberry muffin that I baked the other day (forgot it in the oven so it got hard on the outside *sad face* ).
yesterday when we were watching TV we thought we could smell smoke
but didn't think too much of it until I could see flakes of ashes falling from the sky.
went out and saw a big pillar of smoke. before calling anyone I checked online, and there was information that an industrial buildning nearby was in full flames and the firemen were wokring on it.
we went to have a look, but couldn't get closer than this. they had shut everyone off by 300 meters because of risk of explosions. so we went home again.
this morning we could still smell the smoke
but I started the day with a bowl of overnight oats with raw cacao
topped with banana, strawberries and organic cornflakes.
later we had lunch, consisting of curried vegetables, beans and a little fish.
plus two crackers.
since lunch we have just chilled out, went down the shops to buy some bits and pieces, and soon it's dinner time. only got 5 days left of holiday!!
Today I made this beauty for lunch. It was absolutely delicious and full of healthy nutrients!
I roasted 1 aubergine, 2 zucchini, 2 red peppers, 2 red onions and 4 chopped up cloves of garlic in the oven at 200 degrees for about 30 minutes. To add more flavour I topped it with fresh rosemary and oregano from the garden, some olive oil, salt, pepper and balsamic vinegar too.
While it was roasting I cooked 1 dl of bulgur. When everything was ready I mixed it all together (ok, not all veggies because there was lots!), and added 2 teaspoons of tapenade. Topped it all with thin slices of smoked turkey and some feta cheese.
Yummy and extremely healthy!